Growing up I was always taught that same-sex was prohibit and not “normal”. I was also taught that being of Christian faith I was to have no relationship or associate with “people” like that. My culture background impacted a lot of the ways I looked at people growing up, but as times and society changed so did my cultural beliefs. It wasn’t till after high school that I started to accept same-sex relationship. It never really bothered me, but just didn’t think it was right or never really understood it. I feel that a lot of people who grow up thinking that same-sex or even sex change is a “sin” never really got the opportunity to understand exactly why this occurs or interact with transgendered. I have a gay friend and her and her family are Jehovah Witness, she came out and told her parents that was gay and her parents we’re furious telling her she was confused and even put her in Jehovah witness group to help her overcome that “sin”. Her parents are okay with other people being gay, or her having gay friends. Her parents even feel that if that person is happy by being in a relationship with the same-sex then so be it, as long as it's not their daughter. My friend has a hard time coping with this issue, she knows she’s gay and one day wants to get married and adopt or even have kids with her girlfriend, but the fact that her parents are so opposed by it she doesn’t know what to do. It’s gotten to the point where she’s never happy, and always having to lie to her parents about whom she’s dating or where she’s going.
Although society has changed the way we look at genders, some people still have their old ways of looking at them.. Will it ever be a time where gays are accept by everyone? Will my friend’s parents ever accept that their daughter is happy being gay? I no longer judge gays, nor look at them differently; they are still the same human beings. I personally see nothing wrong with gay marriages; I hope one day all 50 states can legalize gay marriages. I don’t see how gay marriages affect everyone else’s life? I don’t get it.
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When you ask will there ever come a time when your friends parents will accept her I honestly think that they are too ingrained with their beliefs to change. But, I do believe that overall we are becoming more tolerant (even if its just to a small degree) and that will initiate change and acceptance. Its just that it will not happen soon. I think a few generations need to go by before we see anything significant. I mean in California they are allowing gay marriage...thats a first step. But there are still many to go.
I think your friend will need to learn to deal with her parents rejection and accept them for who they are while she continues to accept who she is.
Response to johanna's post ,Week#6.
We were all taught by our parents the true believes by religion and by culture. As you are saying the society and the cultural believes are changed, but what about religious believes? I think it is very hard for parents to accept that their daughter is gay. Good luck to your friend.
When people are brought up with such strong religious beliefs it is very hard to get those individuals to have an open mind. When people have children they are suppose to love them no matter what. That is what unconditional love is. However, in your friends case it seems they don't mind the type of lifestyle but when it comes to their child they won't accept it. Which is quite hypocritical. It makes me wonder how much love can they have for their child if they are willing to no longer accept who she is?
Response to Zulma Blog 6/18:
Zulma. I like you post I thought it was a very interesting topic you choice. I see gay marriages the same way you do. If two gay people love each other why should anyone or any law restricted them from getting married. I go out in public and I see gay couples all the time, they still have the freedom to show their expression for one another so what’s the big deal about making them legally married. If we’ve accepted gays to show affection in public why not allow them to get married, nothing changes just their marital status. I agree with Jenai people are afraid of changes and because of that people will discriminate against gays.
I’ve gone to Gay Pride in New York to support my gay friends and let me tell you walking from the train station to the actual location of the parade is intolerable. I remember people yelled at us, calling us names, and even remember seeing a straight man throw something at one of the gay couple walking in front of us. At that point I realized how cruel people can really be to one another just because they are “different” from them. My experience at Gay Pride was something I’ll always remember, everyone there was just having a good time and never was there any violence. I actually like it, I encourage more people to go and see for yourself the experience you get from being around gays.
Response to Jennifer’s Blog 6/18:
Jennifer I enjoyed your post. The first time I heard about Female Genital Mutilation was actual on the last season of America’s Next Top Model, where Fatima was an African girl who had that done to her at a young age. I agree with you, this procedure is cruel and no women should tolerate this. The fact that its being done in the United States is scary how can anyone do this to someone else. I diffidently agree with you we all need to educate more people about this matter and continue to support the World Health Organization.
Johanna, when I was growing up I was taught that the whole "gay" situation was immoral, and just not thr route to go. I think as we all grow up and develop our own ways of thinking we will choose to do whatever we want to do. Just because I was taught that growing ip doesn't mean that I will judge people who are in same sex relationships now...I personally don't get down like that, but i'm not going to hate you either if you go that route....if that is what makes someone happy, then so be it.
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